A Wake on the
by Tom Scheff*† www.veteransforpeace.org
Sundays the tourists, seeking
stroll on our local pier.
They pass, in plain view
A memorial quite new
for our soldiers who died
in the war against Iraq this year:
Sunday mornings we vets install
A cemetery with a thousand
And remove it Sunday nights,
Sisyphus-like, a moveable bier.
Laid out like a real graveyard,
it covers the beach
to the right of the pier.
We stand in the sand by the pier,
talking with those who come near.
Most either don't look,
As if in a trance,
or give only a sidelong glance.
But some look at the crosses far and near
then at the books of the dead
Laid out as leaves on our railing,
beside the rail of the pier.
They look at me, puzzled. "Which war?"
"Iraq." I say. Which war!
Some leave at this point.
Most, though, look again
at the names of the dead.
"To honor our dead." I say,
Beside the rail of our pier.
They take their first long look,
Then their tumblers roll in their lock.
I can see in their faces
Signs of surprise, grief or shock.
They wake to a thought
like a line from T.S. Eliot:
"I had not thought death had undone so many."
They knew before they looked
that our soldiers were dying in Iraq.
But they didn't know they knew.
Or more to the point,
They didn't feel what they knew.
They hadnít felt that death had undone so many.
Somehow the great size of the mock graveyard
Itís earthy concreteness,
has forced them to feel the pain
they didn't want to feel.
They had been soldiering on,
Avoiding the thought and the
But now they are
Made new by feeling.
We are suddenly bonded together
Connecting as persons.
Many tell me their hopes and fears
about someone in the service,
How they yearn for them to come back
To walk on beaches with piers.
Some ask to come down
to walk among the crosses,
to add flowers or photos.
They want to feel
To feel more of their losses.
Some ask if they can help
or give money. They give generously.
All of those who get this far
speak from the heart:
"Thank you for doing this."
"Its good of you, its wonderful."
Heart to heart with a stranger,
for them an unexpected encounter.
Neither their politics nor mine
seem to matter. We are united by feeling.
I have the sense of a first tiny step
On the long road to healing.
I say to myself
"How could they not know and
But then I remember my first
My fellow vet Bob
had asked me to put nametags on the crosses.
I read the names and ages,
crawling in the sand
Between stations of the crosses,
Most are young, I didn't know,
didn't know their ages.
Didnít feel our losses.
Hadnít read the pages.
I return to where Bob is writing
for the young soldiers who died last week.
"Do you want to put up more?"
"Give me a minute, I didnít know..."
But I can't finish.
I cry instead, convulsed with pain,
sobbing, wet with many a tear.
Hidden grief has struck deep.
I wake from my long sleep.
In this moment by the rail of the
I had not thought death
had undone so many,
had not thought,
so young, so many.
I have protested this war
since it was just an idea,
Sure that I knew what I knew
and felt what I felt.
But I didnít know.
I am just another tourist,
blindsided by long rows of
struck by lightning on the road
I learned that I must mourn my
At a wake by the pier.
We must all mourn our losses,
Where ever we are.
*I gratefully acknowledge help
from my niece Stacy Scheff.