Increasing Sexual Arousal

There are many ways to increase your or your partner's arousal. Here are ten techniques that can help you learn how to increase your arousal. Be sure to communicate openly with each other about any possible problems or areas for improvement within the relationship.

1. Make time for sex. A lot of couples are so busy that sex has to be done within a limited timeframe. This doesn't allow much time for creating high levels of arousal. Pick a time or times in your week where you can leave at least an hour open in your schedules for each other. Spend at least the first fifteen minutes of that hour touching, kissing, smiling, laughing, and doing anything else that helps to put you into the mood. Then explore touching all of the erotically sensitive parts of each other's bodies.
2. Increase the amount of intimate non-sexual activities. Take a nice long bubble bath together. Light some candles and put on some soft music. Hold each other. Do anything that can help you to appreciate your intimacy without sex. These activities often increase arousal, not only for the time being, but also for the long run.
3. Do more activities in general together. Go for walks in the park, go to the movies or theater, eat dinner together, do pretty much anything that the two of you can enjoy with each other.
4. Kissing! Too many people overlook the importance of kissing. See what happens if you can kiss for ten minutes without doing anything else. You'll be amazed at the results!
5. Erotic talk. Similar to kissing, certain words and phrases can increase arousal. Be creative. Say things you think you would like to hear at the moment to increase our arousal. It will probably work for the both of you.
6. Try erotic stories, fantasy, and role-play. Each of these things can allow you to play with the idea of doing something that you can't or won't do. For example, you can't be a princess or medieval knight in reality, but you can still have fun with such ideas. Fantasizing will increase your number of "turn-on's" leading to a greater possibility for arousal. Once you have a few of these you can simply pick one of the scenarios and play it in your mind any time you want to become aroused.
7. Be caring and nurturing towards your partner. This will allow your partner to feel more comfortable with you making it easier for him or her to become aroused when the time is right.
8. Lessen any anxiety that you may be experiencing. Stress and anxiety of any kind often has the effect of lowering sex drives. If you have too much going on in your life, see if you can delegate something to someone else or drop one of your activities. If there is tension in the relationship due to an unsolved problem or argument, then be sure to work it out. Lessening such stressors should increase arousal.
9. Look at each other! You'd be surprised at how aroused you can get just by looking at your partner. Take some time to appreciate the beauty of the human body. Look at his or her neck, muscle lines, and freckles. Let your partner know how much you enjoy his or her body. Again, this can increase desire and arousal for both partners.
10. Spend more time pleasing your partner. This will increase arousal for the both of you. If you are able to focus on nothing but pleasing your partner or being pleased by your partner, then there are less "turn-off's" that can get in the way of your arousal.