Oral Sex

This is a sexual activity where one partner stimulates the other by using their mouth on the other's genitals. When it is done to a female, the technical term is cunnilingus. The partner uses their tongue to stimulate the clitoris and surrounding areas of the vagina, including the mons and inner and outer lips. Licking and sucking these areas can produce stimulation. As the female becomes more aroused it is helpful to focus primarily on the clitoris to bring her to orgasm. Some females prefer the movement of the tongue to be fast and thrusting, while others prefer slow caresses; it varies from female to female. It can also be arousing to use your hand to stimulate, as well as your tongue. For example, insert your finger into the vagina or use your fingers to stimulate the clitoris and areas around it. Many females find that cunnilingus is the only way they can orgasm with a partner. Others, however, aren't comfortable with this type of sexual activity. It's respectful to know what your partner's comfort level is and to not cross that line.

Oral stimulation of a male's genitals is called fellatio. The male's partner stimulates him by licking and sucking on his penis and sometimes the testicles. The glans, frenulum, corona, and penile shaft are highly sensitive, so many people like to spend time focusing on these. A male can be brought to orgasm if his partner encircles the penis with his/her mouth and creates an in and out motion. Teeth can cause a great deal of pain and discomfort, so the lips should be the main source of pressure on the penis. As the male gets more aroused, his partner can move the penis deeper into the throat or speed up the pace of the in and out motion. Once the male has reached orgasm, it is important to think about what to do when he ejaculates. The male can either withdraw his penis or he can ejaculate into his partner's mouth. If he withdraws from the mouth, his partner can continue to stimulate the glans and the shaft of the penis from the side with either their hands or mouth. It should be noted that ejaculation could transmit STIs such as the HIV virus, thus some people demand condom use when doing fellatio.

These sexual activities can be preformed simultaneously. The term for this is sixty-nining. The couple lays either side by side or one on top of the other with their mouths facing the other's genitals. In this position they are able to perform oral sex on each other at the same time. Once again, communication is key. It's essential that each person know what their partner's comfort level is, and communicating can help each person learn what their partner likes.