Sex on Your Period

The Key to Having Sex While Menstruating

It is common for people to avoid having sexual intercourse during menstruation.  The menstrual blood, tampons, and sanitary pads can potentially get in the way of the “mood.” There are are also certain religions and beliefs that females during menstruation are “unclean.”  However, there are many benefits to having sex during menstruation and many crafty ways to avoid the mess! When practiced safely, sexual intercourse during menstruation is a safe, natural act and causes no harm to either partner.

The Benefits of Having Sex during Menstruation

It is common for females to feel more desirous for sex during the first few days of menstruation due to changes in hormones, which can make the experience more rewarding for both partners. Additionally, many women who engage in sex during menstruation report that their menstruation seems to end sooner than if they had not had sexual intercourse. This is plausibe, as the muscle spasms of orgasm may allow menstrual flow to come out quicker than usual. Furthermore, the hormones that your body releases during sex (such as oxytocin) help relieve the menstrual cramps, depression, and irritability associated with premenstrual syndrome (PMS).

The Risks of Having Sex during Menstruation

A female can get pregnant at any time during her menstrual cycle, even on her period!  Although it is less likely to occur than at other times, it is still possible.  If you are trying to avoid pregnancy, it is important to continue using at least one form of birth control.

It is also extremely important to use at least one form of STI prevention at all times, such as the male condom. During menstruation, the cervix expands more than usual to allow blood flow.  This creates a pathway for bacteria and viruses to travel into the female’s uterus and pelvic regions and transmit an STI.  Also, the vagina has a lower acidity at this time, which puts the female at a greater risk of a yeast or bacterial infection. Bottom line - always protect yourself during sexual intercourse!

Tips on How to Avoid the Mess During Sexual Intercourse

A simple, common way to avoid a mess during sexual intercourse is to place a towel or cloth underneath the female in missionary position. A dark or red towel is ideal. Many people are surprised to see just how little blood actually leaks out! It is also possible to have sex in other positions, such as female on top, but there is the possibility of more leakage due to gravity.  In either of these positions, it is a good idea to keep some soft tissues nearby just in case.

Another great way to enhance cleanliness is to have sex in the shower. Not only will this introduce novelty and excitement into your sex life, but also the water will help wash away any menstrual blood!  Since water can dry out the natural lubrication of the vagina, it might be a good idea to also use a lubricant.

If you use sanitary pads, there is also the option of leaving your underwear and pad on during sex and just pushing them to the side. The pad helps absorb any menstrual flow that may come out, and it even has the added bonus of making the vagina feel tighter to a male partner as he rubs against it.

Diaphragms, contraceptive sponges, menstrual cups, or male or female condoms can also be used to help lessen menstrual flow leakage. While these devices do not completely block menstrual flow, they either help absorb some of it or just keep the blood off of your partner.


Last Updated 14 February 2013.


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