Masturbation
It's normal to masturbate!
Despite all of the rules and taboos placed around masturbation, there is nothing unnatural about it at all. Everyone is born with genitalia; it is only natural that people experiment with touching their genitals during the course of their lives. Children do it in the first year of life without any instruction or other prior learning. They touch their genitals because it brings them physical pleasure; they are not yet aware that society has negative thoughts about it. Many parents take society's view and stop their children from engaging in the tabooed behavior. Instead, parents should be helping their children see the difference between things that can be done in private versus those not done in public. Yet parental discomfort and embarrassment play key roles in influencing the way parents talk to their children. Even the most educated parents may have difficulty discussing masturbation, so it is no wonder that many children view masturbation as a bad thing. Guilt and misinformation have been associated with masturbation for hundreds of years. It is only recently that people have begun to accept that masturbation is natural in humans and other species. Sex therapists encourage people to use masturbation as a good way to learn about their bodies and the types of stimulation that best arouse their sexual feelings. We should value masturbation as a learning process and overcome the strong taboos of the past.
>Once a day keeps the doctor away!
People have been told for hundreds of years that masturbation is a bad thing, and some were even told that it poses health risks. Many people do not stop to question the validity of these messages. There are actually many benefits associated with masturbation. It can help to relieve stress and tension, help you to go to sleep, and it has been proven to aid in alleviating menstrual cramps. It helps you learn what kind of stimulation turns you on. It can also be viewed as a good workout for your cardiovascular system, and can improve self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-awareness. Masturbation also allows people to remain sexually active throughout the course of their entire life, partner or not!
Understanding your sexuality
Masturbation is an excellent way to learn about your sexual anatomy and unique sexual likes/dislikes and responses. Through experimentation (which is a normal activity), you can touch all the parts of your body and find out what brings you the most pleasure. This knowledge will help both you and your partner (future or present) to have a good sex life. Sex toys and lubricants help you explore and discover what gives you the most pleasure, allowing you to approach sex with a partner with more confidence and satisfaction.
Free to be sexual
Self-pleasuring is a form of sexual expression. Masturbation is sex. It is safe sex, since you cannot become pregnant or contract an STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) while masturbating. You are asserting your identity as a sexual being every time you masturbate. You are casting off the taboos and negative thoughts from ancient belief systems and celebrating your sexuality. You will not go blind or be punished, as many "old wives tales" claim; instead, masturbation provides us with a way to escape the world and enter into the private world of our sexual selves.
You put your hand where?
For a description of various masturbation techniques for males and females, check out our sex for one page!
Your two cents:
My
mom encouraged me to masturbate when I was growing up.
She said that it would help me learn more about myself and what I
enjoyed sexually. I do not
have any anxieties about masturbation.
-J. Price
My
dad caught me masturbating when I was 13.
He freaked out and said that I was a dirty boy and punished me
harshly. From that time on,
I feared masturbation and anything associated with sexual pleasure. I
have felt much confusion and turmoil since then and have learned that it
is important to foster good feelings about self-pleasuring in order to
have a healthy sex life.
-M. Harris
Next
to running, masturbating is my favorite way to clear my mind and relieve
stress.
-K. Blane
My
friends and I all thought it would be cool to go and buy vibrators.
I felt so nervous and dirty the first time I used mine, and just
couldn't relax and enjoy myself.
It took several attempts to finally become comfortable with
playing with myself via the vibrator.
Once I relaxed, I loved it and was able to learn what I liked or
did not like for pleasurable sexual stimulation.
My sex life and confidence has improved dramatically since then,
and I recommend a vibrator to anyone not achieving the levels of
pleasure that they desire during sex!
-T. Marshall
I
went to a Catholic school through 8th grade where sex
education was virtually non-existent.
We were taught that masturbation would send us to Hell because we
were committing a great sin. Since
then, I have learned that masturbation is a positive expression of my
unique sexuality and is perfectly normal.
No more praying to God for forgiveness every time I engaged in my
self-pleasuring activities!
-P. Hasek
Other Names For Masturbation
Many people have different
slang labels for masturbation. The
following is a brief list of some of the other names masturbation is
known by:
Guys:
Answer
the Bone-A-Phone
Assault on a Friendly Weapon
Baiting your Hook
Batting Practice
Beat Off
Beating the Snake
Beating the Stick
Being your Own Best Friend
Box the Jesuit (16th-17th century!)
Buckin' it
Butter Your Corn
Calling All Cum
Carrying Weight
Cast Off
Changing your Oil
Charm the Cobra
Cleaning out your Rope
Clean the Pipes
Clubbing Eddy
Couch Hockey for One
Cranking For Cum
Crown the King
Cuff the Carrot
Date Mother Palm and Her Five Daughters
Devil's Handshake
Diddle
Dishonorable Discharge
Doddle Whacking
Doodle Your Noodle
Do The Dew
Drain the Monster
Fist your Mister
Five Finger Knuckle Shuffle
Five Knuckle Olympics
Flute Solo
Freeing the Willies
Getting In Touch With Your Manhood
Getting In Touch With Yourself
Giving the John Hancock
Grease the Pipe
Greasing your Bone
Hand Job
Hands on Training
Hand to Gland Combat
Hand Work
Hitchhike Under the Big Top
Hitching to Heaven
Holding Your Sausage Hostage
Ironing Some Wrinkles
Jack Hammer
Jack Off
Jackin' the Beanstalk
Jerk Off
Jerk the Johnson
Killing the Beast
Launching the Hand Shuttle
Leakin' the Main Drain
Manual Override
Meeting with Palmala Handerson
Milkywaying
Oil the Glove
Oiling The Pogo Stick
One Handed Clapping
One Man Show
One Man Tug-O-War
Peel the Banana
Petting Your Dog
Playing With the Snake
Playing Your Instrument
Pump the Python
Ride the Great White Knuckler
Rub the Unicorn's Horn
Sending out the Troops
Shake the Snake
Shifting Gears
Shine Your Pole
Shining The Helmet
Shooting Putty at the Moon
Sloppy Joe's Last Stand
Sloppy Sign Language
Stroke the Stallion
Snap the Monkey
Snap the Whip
Spank your Monkey
Squeezing the Burrito
Tease the Python
Tease the Weasle
Tenderize the Meat
Threading a Needle
Tug of War with Cyclops
Walk the Dog
Wank
Wax your Willy
Whack Off
White Water Wristing
Yank My Doodle (It's a Dandy)
Yank Off
Beating your Bludger
Taming the Dragon
Girls
3
Point Shot
A Night in With the Girls
Airing the Orchid
Auditioning the Finger Puppets
Clitters
Creamin'
Coming Into Your Own
Cunt Cuddling
Fingerbating
Fingerpainting
Get a Lube Job
Get To Know Yourself
Hitchhiking South
Hitchhiking to Heaven
Hitchhiking Under the Big Top
Jillin' Off
Nulling the Void
Paddling the Pink Canoe
Parting the Red Sea
Pearl Fishing
Play Poker
Play the Clitar
Play Couch Hockey for One
Rolling the Dough
Teasing the Kitty
Teasing the Tuna Taco
Testing the Plumbing
The Virgin's Release
Tickling the Taco
Tiptoe Through the TwoLips
Two Finger Taco Tango
Digging for your Keys
Trilling your High Note
Resources
For more information regarding masturbation and the attitudes and views surrounding it, check out these great websites:
www.jackinworld.com
www.masturbationpage.com/asmfaq.html
www.teenwire.com
www.bianca.com/shack/goodvibe/masturbate