Take Action. Find Help!
1. If you are in immediate danger contact local law enforcement immediately (9-1-1).
2. Contact law enforcement to help protect you and your family against the abuser, which can be done through restraining orders.
3. Call a domestic violence hotline for support and help. They can explain all of your medical and legal options. They can also provide you with information on other resources you can use such as shelters.
4. Find friends and family who can help and support you, whether it be emotionally, financially, etc.
5. If you feel safe enough to do so, tell your abuser "Stop, or else I will leave." If the perpetrator does not quit the abuse, follow what you said and leave. The perpetrator may be shocked by your actions and change his* abusive ways because off the self respect you demonstrated. Your relationship may even improve over time because you defended yourself and your beliefs. This is not true of all perpetrators, though. Your act of defiance may create more outrage and anger in the abuser, which may foster further abuse. Only confront the abuser if you feel safe enough to do so an believe that further retaliations are unlikely.
Stop The Abuse Early!
*We use masculine pronouns to describe abusers because a majority of domestic abuse cases involve males abusing females or males. The characteristics of a batterer can be applied to all persons, and some females are the batterers while some males are the survivors.