How to Give a Sensual Massage

A sensual massage is one that focuses on the partner’s erogenous zones to provide both stress relief and increased intimacy between the masseuse and recipient. The goal of a sensual massage is not to orgasm (though that may be a pleasant reaction), but rather to incorporate a highly personal and relaxing experience into your life. It allows both partners to receive pleasure without the pressure of performance and to incorporate an alternate source of intimacy into their relationship. Giving or receiving a sensual massage (also classified as a tantric massage) is a great way to bond with your partner. It is extremely important, however, to communicate beforehand. This ensures that both partners are comfortable with the level of intimacy of the massage. After this, both you and your partner can reap the benefits of this relaxing and personal moment of exploring each other’s bodies.

Prior to following these techniques, be sure to check out the basic massage techniques, including how to set the mood for the massage.


To Begin

Image of Rose Petals and Massage-Gradually incorporate erogenous zones into the basic massage techniques. Make sure that your partner feels comfortable at each stage or else go back to giving them a basic massage.

-Watch for both verbal and nonverbal feedback from your partner. This can allow you to focus pressure on the areas of most pleasure.

-For more creative methods, give a full-body sensual massage by using your body to rub against theirs or use your mouth and tongue to kiss, lick, and breathe on your partner’s skin.

-Feel free to incorporate lubrication (water or silicone-based to prevent infection), a vibrator or some other type of sex toy into the massage for additional pleasure.


Female Sensual Massage

Diagram of Female Genitalia-Have your female partner lay down comfortably with either their face up or down. Both positions will allow access to different sensitive regions. Begin by massaging the chest, arms, and hands. Then lightly stroke the breasts and nipples or firmly massage the buttocks in a circular motion.

-Glide your hands down her body and softly stroke the regions surrounding the genitals, building up your partner’s anticipation. Once her arousal has increased, begin a genital massage.

-During the massage, be sure to caress your partner’s genitalia rather than just touching it. This will provide maximum pleasure.

-Also, if she is not generating enough lubrication be sure to apply some, especially when massaging the clitoris.

-Use one hand to caress her body, and the other to gently rub her vulva up and down. Then, use your fingers to gently apply pressure to the labial lips.

-Once she begins to secrete lubrication, incorporate clitoral stimulation. Begin with a light touch and increase pressure with arousal. Use the index and forefingers to gently rub the clitoris.

-Some females may not find clitoral stimulation as pleasing as others. If this is the case, move on to an internal massage.

-If you cannot locate your partner’s clitoris, ask her to help. The female clitoris comes in all shapes and sizes so it may be more difficult to locate some than others.

-Continue to stroke the clitoris, now using a circular and figure eight motion. Follow a steady rhythm, slowly and gently increasing the amount of pressure.

-If she reaches orgasm at any point, move on to the labia as the clitoris will be highly sensitive for a short period.

-Once she is fully aroused, begin to explore her internal genitalia (penetration is usually uncomfortable for females if done prior to arousal). Use your finger and point upwards towards the pubic bone, trying to locate her G-spot. Stimulate this in a “come here” motion, hooking your index finger as your palm faces up.

-During this time, you can continue stimulating her clitoris with the other hand.

-Follow up by caressing her vaginal walls with your finger. Do not just move your fingers in and out of the vaginal canal.

-Once complete, allow her to relax peacefully and even fall asleep in your arms if she desires.



Diagram of Male GenitaliaMale Sensual Massage

-Have your male partner sit back in a slightly reclined position with pillows behind his back or head for support.

-Apply a lubricant to the palm of your hands and gently rub it onto the penis and testicles.

-Create a signal with your partner so that you can slow down or change technique just prior to ejaculation. This enables you to extend the massage and provide your partner with a more intense and relaxing experience.

-Remind your partner to breathe deeply as this will help him resist the urge to ejaculate. Tell him to inhale deeply with his stomach, and to relax and sigh on the exhale.

-A common response of this massage is having your partner’s penis go hard and soft. Do not worry; this is a highly desirable effect of the experience.

-Throughout this massage, use gentle fingertip touching. Begin by gently massaging the testicles and scrotum.

-Follow this with massaging the pubic region above the penis and then the perineum (the area between the testicles and anus).

-Now massage the shaft, varying the pressure and speed of the massage. Gently squeeze the base of the penis with one hand and then lift your hand up and off. Alternate hands and repeat this motion for many strokes. Then reverse direction of strokes by starting from the head of the penis and sliding down.

-Follow up with massaging the head and shaft in gentle twisting motions.

-Now massage the male prostate region. Search for a small indent on the perineum. Gently move your fingers back and forth over this region until it feels softened. If he nears ejaculation, push on this spot to enhance his orgasm.

-As the massage comes to an end, focus on one of two strokes that he enjoys. Then gently remove your hands and allow him to rest for at least ten minutes.




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Last Updated 27 February 2013.