Am I watching too much porn? Am I breaking any laws by watching it?

 

The purpose of pornography is to pleasure and excite viewers who can watch sexual content in a way that is non-coercive. If men are educated enough to know that they should not expect their sex life to be a mirror image of pornography and that everything that is shown in pornography is not necessarily true, pornography can be an excellent way of increasing sexual arousal. Pornography becomes problematic if it begins to interfere with your daily life. Are you skipping out on activities you once enjoyed in favor of watching porn? Are you feeling less social? Are you feeling inadequate or disappointed in your sex life? Answering yes to any of these questions may be a warning sign.

Also, consider that most pornography targets a male audience. In catering to a male audience, most pornography depicts fantasies that are common for males, but most likely are not what females like or expect out of sex. A lot of men also expect certain things out of females because of what they have seen in pornographies, and sometimes these expectations can make their female partner uncomfortable. The false ideas, about female pleasure that males learn from pornography can lead to stress in the relationship and dissatisfaction in sex life. Pornography can give people unrealistic expectations about sex. Pornography usually does not contain information about anatomy, female pleasure, certain types of male pleasure, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases, or successful relationships. It is very important that people take the initiative to learn about human sexuality either at a school or hospital or from an educational book or a website such as ours.

As far as legalities go, in the United States it is illegal for anyone under the age of 18 to view or purchase pornography. This is a straightforward law in our society, but with internet, laws concerning pornographic material need to be augmented to deal with the ease of accessibility that the internet provides.  Pornographic websites often contain a disclaimer that "no one under 18 may enter," however, while this may relinquish any legal responsibilities the website has regarding illegal viewing, it does not stop young people from viewing porn.

Whether or not porn is considered "obscene," determines if sexual pictures are appropriate in our society. “Factual” pictures are deemed appropriate, while obscene images are not. However, the issue here lies in the definition of “obscene” and people’s personal opinions on how the word applies to the world of pornography. The most modern view of determining whether or not porn is obscene is based on sexual criteria:

1) If the work comes across as clearly offensive to the community as a whole, it may be considered obscene.

2) A work may not be considered obscene if it has any artistic or literary value, maybe even political or scientific value.

3) To be obscene the material as a whole must incite lustful interest in sex.

These three guidelines are the ones used by the U.S. Supreme Court when it tries to determine whether or not something is obscene.

Lastly, the viewing, distribution, and/or making of child pornography, or "kiddie porn," are illegal. Child pornography is a big problem in the United States because it exploits innocent children who might not understand why they are being photographed or filmed naked. The accessibility of the Internet makes the problem even worse.

Overall, pornography is not problematic if it is not interfering with your life,  it is not taken verbatim, and it is not exploiting anyone or breaking any laws.

 
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Why do I experience pain in my testes following masturbation?

Testicular pain following masturbation could have multiple sources. For example, this pain could be caused by pelvic congestion, commonly referred to as “blue balls”. This can occur when a long period of sexual stimulation does not end in ejaculation. During stimulation, the blood vessels in the genitals fill with blood. Ejaculation normally allows this buildup to release so that the blood vessels can quickly return to their normal size. If orgasm is not reached, however, the blood will remain in the genitals for a longer period of time. While the lack of orgasm is by no means harmful, it may leave a temporary sensation of heaviness, aching, or discomfort. Masturbating in one session for a long period of time may also result in pelvic congestion. Try breaking apart the stimulation into two shorter sessions instead. This will allow your body to receive a shorter period of arousal prior to release, and may perhaps prevent pelvic congestion from occurring.

The pain may also be related to how you are positioning yourself during masturbation. If your testicles are moving around too much, this motion could be the reason behind your discomfort. Consider a change in position or try cupping your testicles with your free hand as you are masturbating. This touch could also benefit by providing extra sensation and may make the experience more enjoyable.

Epididymitis can also be a source of testicular pain following ejaculation. This is caused by inflammation in the epididymis (the tube behind each testicle that stores and delivers sperm). The most common cause of epididymitis is a bacterial infection that can be the result of a sexually transmitted infection (STI) or coliforms (bacteria that live in the intestines). The infection can usually be cleared up by a dose of antibiotics. Since antibiotics work best the sooner they are taken, so talk to your health care provider as soon as possible to find out if you have epididymitis or a different testicular condition.

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Is it okay to masturbate every day?

First, we would like you all to know that there are many cultural myths about the risks of masturbation but when performed safely masturbation can be a very enjoyable and beneficial activity! Let us provide you with some information on the benefits of masturbation and dispel some common misconceptions about the risks of frequent masturbation.

There is no absolute limit to the amount of times one can or should masturbate in a day. There is only cause for concern when masturbation begins to encroach upon daily life. If someone were to stop socializing or begin neglecting duties because all they want to do is masturbate, there may be cause for concern. However, as long as masturbation is not causing social isolation or irresponsible behavior, there is no reason why frequent masturbation cannot be enjoyed safely. In fact, there are many experts who believe frequent masturbation can be both physically and mentally beneficial. Not only does it relieve sexual tension, but it also helps individuals become more comfortable with their own bodies. Masturbation is an excellent way to learn about your sexual anatomy and unique sexual likes/dislikes and responses. Through experimentation (which is a normal and healthy activity), people can touch all the parts of their body and find out what brings them the most pleasure.

Masturbation is a fantastic way of improving self-confidence and self-esteem throughout one’s lifetime. Despite many myths about the risks of masturbation, please know that manual stimulation of the genitals does not cause fertility changes in men or women and does not reduce sperm or egg count. Touching oneself is a safe and enjoyable way to release tension and experience pleasure. Masturbation is one of the safest sexual activities because it involves no risk of pregnancy or the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). So it is okay to masturbate every day, even multiple times per day, if you are doing so safely and responsibly!

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I have been masturbating while lying on my stomach, and have been feeling weak afterwards. Is this normal?

 

First, know that many women (and men) masturbate while lying on their stomachs. Many do it because they can exert more pressure on their genitals, but this method has been known to cause temporary difficulty reaching orgasm through other stimulation because other kinds cannot replicate the pressure of this masturbation. While we do not want to deter anyone from self-exploration, we are concerned by the negative side effects that can occur. We encourage that if anyone feels weak after prone masturbation they should see a doctor immediately and stop using this method completely until the reason for these symptoms are found. It is also possible that these symptoms are unrelated to the masturbation technique, and in that case, only a doctor has the expertise and training to try and diagnose the cause. If anyone would like to learn more about masturbation, we recommend checking out our articles on different forms of masturbation and masturbation tips.

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I am a female and I have difficulty making myself orgasm when masturbating. How can I masturbate more effectively?

Many females struggle with reaching orgasm while masturbating or participating in other forms of sex. There are some tips to help anyone self-stimulate with the hopes of reaching what one may define as sexual pleasure. We’d like to preface with the fact that an orgasm does not imply that one ejaculates, or “cums.” The majority of women simply do not produce ejaculate when they experience orgasm. An orgasm does not necessarily need to be the goal in any sexual experience. It is important to realize that an orgasm does not mean the experience was successful – the entire series of emotions and sensitized reactions are important to notice and enjoy during sexual activity. Lastly, we would like to add that for all of the following masturbation methods it is very important to be certain that any object used for masturbation is clean and sanitized – this includes toys, fingers and any other tool viewed as most pleasurable.

 

First, it is important to lay back, relax, and find a private and quiet place to focus on some time alone with yourself. Release any external stresses and just focus on the present and the sensations running through all of the nerves in your body.

 

Method #1: Manually. Use your finger(s) to rub your genitals. You don’t need to insert your fingers into your vaginal canal if you don’t want to, but simply rub up and down the external genitalia (also known as the “vulva”) and focus on your clitoris.  You can rub your clitoris in a circular motion, up and down or by any other technique you find enjoyable. For heightened pleasure, you can suggest use a lubricant – whether it is self-lubrication or store-bought (for example, KY Jelly) – this gives added stimulation. We also recommend using your three weakest fingers (pinky, ring and middle fingers) if the index finger proves to be too intense.  If you feel loosened up after a little while of doing this, you can try to insert one of your (smaller) fingers into your vaginal canal and see if that feels good to you. Some women can only achieve climax via coital stimulation (vaginal penetration). There is also a sensitive spot called the G-spot on the anterior wall of the vagina that feels pleasurable when given the right amount of pressure and attention.  Check out our link on the G-spot here!

 

Method #2: Water play. Running water flowing onto the clitoris and vulva tends to give a similar feeling to that of a vibrator. As the water flows and ebbs onto your bare genitalia, the clitoris tends to become erect from arousal. You might consider investing in a hand-held shower head, which can also come with different functions, and can be used while in the shower. One can also use special jets in the bathtub or Jacuzzi, or utilize the faucet to pour water over the clitoris.

 

Method #3: Riding. You can also masturbate with or without your clothes on by riding on top of something, usually a semi-hard corner that you can straddle your legs over. We do suggest that the surface be sanitary and cleaned both before and after use.

These methods can be a good start for effective masturbation. As you become more comfortable with your body and the kind of pleasure you prefer, you can try more masturbation methods and toys to enhance your experience. For more tips and information about female masturbation, click here.

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Is it possible to masturbate too often?

 

Masturbation is typically a normal and healthy part of any human being’s life, but (as with all good things) there actually is such a thing as too much. The term “over-masturbation” refers to excessive masturbation, nearing the level of compulsion. Masturbation is considered too frequent when it interferes with other important aspects of your life, such as work responsibilities or social activity. Frequent masturbation may lead to a friction burn on the genitals, which is a superficial skin abrasion. Friction burns can be quite painful, but they will heal quickly if the area is free from irritation. Be sure to use some form of lubrication to avoid this friction and resulting inflammation. In short, as long as you are not doing any harm to yourself, there is no limit to how much you can masturbate.

 
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