Arousal from Torture
Question:
I get seriously turned on by movies like SAW and others that have women being tortured. Such stuff also goes on in my head, at the end of which, I don't ejaculate, but some colorless fluid is secreted from the penis. I am a virgin, but I do masturbate. Am I normal?
-Male, 21, India
Answer:
Yes, you are normal. However, you seem to have fallen into a difficult situation that can be psychologically bothersome. You have come to associate sexual pleasure with images of torture and pain. Linking images of the torture of women with your sexual pleasure is not a healthy way to express your sexuality, because it can result in your wanting to hurt other people.
Another young man has previously asked us a very similar question to yours about deviant sexual fantasies and it would be very beneficial for you to read the response given, which includes ways to get rid of such inappropriate sexual desires.
It is normal to masturbate. However, it is not wise to pair images of torture with masturbation because it can further your deviant sexual fantasy. We recommend you to try to associate the pleasurable feelings of masturbation with loving consensual sex. We have a page dedicated to the different types of reconditioning therapies that we encourage you to try.
If you continue to have these feelings after trying some of these therapies we suggest you seek some professional medical help, especially so if you begin to fantasize about actually carrying out these desires.
By the way, the colorless fluid that was secreted from your penis is called precum. It is a liquid that is secreted from the penis during the male sexual response cycle. It is a completely normal part of the arousal process.
We hope this helps,
Sincerely,
The Sexperts