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The presence of the hymen has varying cultural significance around the world. If you are worried that a broken hymen or lack of bleeding upon sexual intercourse means you are not a virgin, please do not worry! Even if your hymen is no longer in tact, you are still technically a virgin if you have never had sexual intercourse. When a penis enters a vagina for the first time, the hymen (or what is left of a partial hymen) will most likely tear and lead to bleeding (but not always!).
Using a tampon or fingering yourself usually does not tear the hymen, but it may stretch the initial and naturally existing hole(s). Some women have one small opening in their hymen, while others may have a few smaller holes that could tear slightly and cause bleeding if a tampon or finger is inserted. Fingering yourself or having your partner finger you could stretch the hymen or break it. If the hymen were already gone because of physical activity, the bleeding and pain would be minimal.
Head pains leading up to and during orgasm are often caused by a phenomenon known as “Benign Sexual Headaches.” They can be quite painful, but luckily there are many known treatments for this condition.
The condition you are referring to is known as female orgasmic disorder, or anorgasmia, which is the difficulty or impossibility to achieve orgasm. Most sexual difficulties, including anorgasmia, can stem from both physical and psychological causes. In other words, there may be nothing physically wrong, but you may be thinking about the problem too much and creating a mental blockade. Remember, anxiety is the opposite of orgasm.
You may have erectile dysfunction, but do not fear! What is colloquially thought of as being erectile dysfunction is actually far more extreme than the medical definition of erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction can be primary (which means you have had it since birth), secondary (developed later in life but is a constant problem), or situational (certain situations result in erectile difficulty).
1. This is a common male sexual difficulty known as premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation, like most sexual difficulties, can have psychological or biological causes (or a mixture of both). In other words, nervous thoughts about ejaculating quickly might actually have a major influence on how long you are able to last.
The purpose of pornography is to pleasure and excite viewers who can watch sexual content in a way that is non-coercive. If men are educated enough to know that they should not expect their sex life to be a mirror image of pornography and that everything that is shown in pornography is not necessarily true, pornography can be an excellent way of increasing sexual arousal. Pornography becomes problematic if it begins to interfere with your daily life. Are you skipping out on activities you once enjoyed in favor of watching porn? Are you feeling less social?
Every person has a different sex drive ranging from very low to very high. It is normal to fall anywhere along this continuum. Realize that, no matter what level of low sexual desire a person experiences; it only becomes an issue if you or your partner finds it problematic. Age, gender, and health all influence a person’s sex drive.
Can I have sex if I have a urinary tract infection (UTI)?
Yes. A UTI is not contagious. Having sex will not delay the healing process once antibiotics have been started. However, friction on already-inflamed tissue may worsen the symptoms of the UTI. Having sex with a UTI will not pose any health risks, but may be slightly uncomfortable. Do what feels right for you body.
Can I have sex when I have a yeast infection?